I don’t take advice on how to shift my thoughts and beliefs about the world from anyone. We are all impressionable and the people we listen to will shape us. So listen to people you trust.
But how do you know who to trust? I evaluate trustworthiness by looking at whether they seem to “add up”, meaning, what they said, what they did and how it made me feel, all seem to be in alignment.
To help you evaluate this for yourself, I’m trying to be as open and transparent as I can possibly be. What I did. The mistakes I’ve made. What I have learned. I reject the notion of professional distance or distinguishing between personal, professional and private. I try to avoid over-sharing, or sharing that violates other people’s boundaries, for example my wife or children. But my preference is to share it all. I’m also always happy to answer any question or curiosity someone might have about me.
Every year since 2011, I’ve written a personal annual report. You can read about me getting fired, becoming a parent, struggling and celebrating. That’s a good place to begin.
If you find something that doesn’t seem to “add up” or you’re wondering about something, please don’t hesitate to ask.